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| Rules For Ladies In Love |
| Written by Shelly Davidson |
| Friday, 06 November 2009 10:20 |
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Have you ever had a girlfriend who'd ditch her friends, you included, for a guy? Let's say the two of you made plans for the museum on Saturday afternoon. When Saturday morning rolled around, she changed her plans to be with a guy she'd just met. Being the understanding friend that you are, you caved and said that it was fine.
Have you ever had a girlfriend who'd ditch her friends, you included, for a guy? Let's say the two of you made plans for the museum on Saturday afternoon. When Saturday morning rolled around, she changed her plans to be with a guy she'd just met. Being the understanding friend that you are, you caved and said that it was fine. Deep down inside, you're starting to become resentful and you feel more than a bit neglected. Here's a news flash for you; guys don't break guy plans to spend time with you, so you might want to think twice before cancelling gal pal plans for a guy. In truth, if he cared for you at all he'd be the first one to insist that you keep your original plan. Business has a policy of "first come, first served". Well, I think relationships should be like that too. A strong relationship with a man is not going to wither and die because you spend time with friends now and again. In fact, it should strengthen your relationship because it shows your guy that you have a life outside of him. Your friends are just as important as your new sweetie; you've known them longer. While you're reading this you're probably saying to yourself that a woman should never let a her friends come between her and her man. Well the flip side of that is true as well; a woman should never let her man come between her and her friends. It's too bad that we all know someone who's done that, and we may even be looking at her in the mirror. And when the friends are dropped, all that extra time is spent with the new guy. Their newfound relationship consumes their whole life. They barely call their friends just to chat, and have no desire to since the woman feels that he is all she needs. Sometimes her productivity at works slows down or her career plans are put on hold for him. Some of you may be saying "oh, that's not me", but it can happen unconsciously. Remember, love should you complement you; make you a better person. It shouldn't leave you brain dead and possibly friendless and jobless. Think of this; the people that you're ignoring now in favor of your guy will be the same people that you will run to when the relationship sinks. Although your friends may not say it, they probably wanted to confront you all along, but were apprehensive about putting a barrier on the friendship. Most caring friends keep their mouth shut and just listen to the sob story that is entirely of your own making. If your guy doesn't understand that you have a life outside of him, which includes your friends, then you simply don't need him in your life. A women needn't lose her identity to fall in love and become part of a couple. About the Author: This post was developed by the staff of the Datepad.com internet dating company where you can find thousands more helpful dating posts. |